In all the chaos of the new house and the wedding, we’ve both just gotten around to contacting some of our long-distance friends about our upcoming wedding! Joe’s law school buddies sent their congratulations, and that’s so much fun to have these e-mails launch some great stories about their times together in school. When you hear from an old friend, those memories come alive again. Joe just beams when he talks about his great friends, and it’s easy to figure out why he’s so beloved by his circle. This guy lights up a room. At the shower, I found myself scanning the room for him — as I was running glasses of wine out to the back deck for our guests, or pouring glasses of milk for the kids (to offset the sugar rush of the gigantic cookies we got them!) — and when my eyes found him, he stood out in an almost brighter color, as if everyone else in the room was in black-and-white.
In the days after the party, and all the eyebrow-raising revelations of who said what and who did what, there’s a palpable sense of contentment that I will never have to worry about Joe wanting to knock me down a peg. Ovid wrote: “If thou wouldst marry wisely, marry thy equal.” It’s all about values and similar beliefs about what makes up kindness. Does this person have my back? With 100% certainty, I can say Yes.